Pathological vs. Compulsive Liar

A pathological liar is usually defined as someone who lies incessantly to get their way and does so with little concern for others. Pathological lying is often viewed as coping mechanism developed in early childhood and it is often associated with some other type of mental health disorder. A pathological liar is often goal-oriented (i.e., lying is focused - it is done to get one's way). Pathological liars have little regard or respect for the rights and feelings of others. A pathological liar often comes across as being manipulative, cunning and self-centered.

Exhibit A



A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and reflexive way of responding to questions. Compulsive liars bend the truth about everything, large and small. For a compulsive liar, telling the truth is very awkward and uncomfortable while lying feels right. Compulsive lying is usually thought to develop in early childhood, due to being placed in an environment where lying was necessary. For the most part, compulsive liars are not overly manipulative and cunning (see, Pathological Liar), rather they simply lie out of habit - an automatic response which is hard to break and one that takes its toll on a relationship


Once again, Exhibit A




I've been thinking a lot about these terms lately. Actually what I'm trying to figure out is which one of these definitions best describes Amy Perez. I have pretty much decided that she is a combination of the two. Now believe me, in my eyes she will always be a lying, two-faced cunt, but I do think she does have some deep-seated issues that cause her to lie for no good reason other than to just lie.

Now having offered my diagnosis of Amy as being a dual-liar, exhibiting the signs of both a pathological and a compulsive liar, I will also add that...Damn girl!!! You got me!!! Usually I pride myself on being a pretty decent judge of character but I must admit you are good....scarily good. Hell you've got all of your new friends believing your shit now. How many little care pkgs have you sent to people? How many nice comments have you made? How much support have you offered? Yep, that's pretty much your standard operating procedure..right before you start talking out of both sides of your neck. You had me believing every word you told me about Erik, Noel, Ali, Patricia, Cathie, Sandi, Kim, etc. Now don't worry, I'm not going to post any of that stuff, but honestly, I really do hope that most of the things you said are lies and these people really aren't everything you said they are.

I'm still so confused over why you even felt the need to lie about most of the stuff you chose to lie about. It was so unnecessary and so hurtful to me and to others.

Let me give a few examples how what I mean as it pertains to me and to someone else who has approved of me posting this information.

Ex 1: Amy to Lyn: You know girl. Your problem is that when it comes to diet/training, you need accountability. Let me help you with that.

Amy to someone else: Yeah, Lyn came to me and asked me to train her.

Ex 2: Amy to Lyn: You are doing great!

Lyn to someone else: Lyn is so lazy and unfocused. She clearly doesn't want to lose the weight bad enough. Why not just do it already? Seriously! Actually, I'm in good company on this one. I remember you used to say the exact same thing about your husband Kevin. Hmm..guess he showed you didn't he?

Ex 3: Amy to Lyn: Oh yeah girl, I really hope Ana starts posting on Noel's new board. Ana's a postwhore. She'll really help the numbers and get the board going.

Amy to Noel: There's no way in hell I'd ever allow that bitch on my board.

Ex 4: Amy to Lyn: There's no way I'm going to NJ to that seminar with Noel. We aren't even that close anymore. I can't see myself spending the whole entire weekend with someone I barely even talk to anymore.

Amy to Noel: Girl, I've been at the airport trying to get a flight. Boohoo, I'm so upset. I've been here for 6 hrs trying to get a seat on the next flight.

Ex 5: Amy to Lyn: Yeah, Erik thinks you're a nosy gossip. He thinks you spend your time trying to get in everyone's business. (Yeah, I have no doubt he said this but true to form, I'm sure he didn't expect it to get back to me) Actually, I find it amusing since he was the one who asked me on numerous occasions to go over to EP and tell him what was being said about him. I guess it's not gossip when it's something he wants to know about.

Ex 6: Amy to Lyn: Yeah, I know it was bad that I accidentaly sent Noel a text in which Erik and I were trashing her. I know it probably hurt her feelings, but it needed to be said. I feel bad for the way in which she found out but I will never apologize for the content.

Amy to Noel: Booohoooo, booohoooo. I'm so sorry. Please forgive me. Booohooooo. Booohoooo.

Ex 7: Amy to Lyn: There's no way I'd be like Noel and expose my kids to Erik. I wouldn't want to be in the position to catch crap from people like Matt and from others. She really caught heat on that and I just don't ever want to be in that situation.

Amy to Erik: We're on our way!!! See you soon!! My daughter can't wait to play the Wii with you!!!

Ex 8: Amy to Lyn: Lyn, Erik is not a nice person, he's a predator. At the Arnold he pinned me against a wall and told me that he could take me if he really want to. I was so scared. I had bruises on my arms. I had to wear long sleeves for the rest of the weekend and don't even get me started about how Erik kisses, BLEECH!! He made my lips puff up like a pufferfish. I thought he was going to suck my damn face off!! I was dodging the cameras all weekend because I didn't want anyone to see my fat lips!!! It was a horrible weekend. I was soooo ready to come back home.

Amy to Erik: Slurp, suck, slurp, suck (Sorry, I guess it's hard to talk with someone's dick in your mouth)

So anyway, like I said, I'm really not sure why Amy felt the need to lie about so many things but she did and I really hope that every nasty thing she's said about me, Erik, Noel and other people she claims as "friends" comes back to bite her in the ass; it usually does ya now. The sad thing is she always made Erik out to be the manipulative, ego-driven, paranoid, insecure asshole, and while that's true, he is all of the aforementioned, but I'm really starting to think that even a liar of his caliber is no match for all that is Amy.